8 Warning Signs Of A Toxic Mother In LawWe all show signs of our inner self by our behavior, our mannerisms, and our ability to react in a certain situation. All this reflects our immoral virtues. A person who is toxic to the core will not only make your life miserable but also ruin the peaceful environment of the house. Have you ever wondered why do mothers in law cause problems in marriages? I do wonder many times, looking at my marriage, looking at other people I know are struggling hard for mere acceptance and some love. Is it so hard to accommodate another human in your house and accept her as their own? Forget about acceptance, a toxic mother in law already has prejudices about her newlywed daughter in laws based on her appearances, her educational qualification, her family background, her parents and if she is her son’s choice then the detrimental qualities could be an exhaustive one here. No, the acceptance doesn’t come easy and it creates havoc in the mind of a daughter in law who is conditioned to win hearts, to please everyone in her in-laws family. A daughter in law who is made to believe that in-laws house is her real house, but what happens when she tries to draw lines, connecting the dots between her parental house and in-laws house? There remains a huge and unidentified gap. Again we are expected to accept it and live with it as an obedient daughter in law. Here are a few signs which will help you to understand the level of toxicity your mother-in-law possesses and help you determine boundaries in your relationship, to save yourselves some sanity.
|1.) A narcissistic mother in law could be incredibly cruel|
|2.) A toxic mother in law is always a control freak|
|3.) An adamant mother in law oozes negativity|
|4.) A gossip queen she could be|
|5.) A jealous mother in law is sickening|
|6.) A self-centered always put her first|
|7.) A mother in law could be manipulative|
|8.) A Gaslighting trait of a nasty mother in law|
How to deal with a toxic mother in law and protect your sanity?Now your daily routine includes crying, pleasing, and staying anxious. You apologize to her, you don’t sleep peacefully, and you wake up every morning feeling anxious. After a run-in with the biggest hypocrite in your life, it is natural to feel, you will feel exhausted, drained, and empty. A toxic mother in law will drain your entire energy and consume your entire life. Toxic people condition you to believe that the problem isn’t with them but it is your inability to deal with the situation. After learning about a few signs of a toxic mother in law, I will share a few ways to deal with one and protect your sanity. Trust me, it is just not worth it, to lose a piece of sanity over some shit head like her.
Five ways to deal with a toxic mother in lawIt is said that, when the going gets tough, the tough get going, and here is how;
|1.) Set boundaries|
|2.) Say NO and let it go|
|3.) Stop expecting|
|4.) Stop seeking her validation|
|5.) Focus on your mental health|
……………………………………………………………………………Priyanka is a published author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you, Ardhaviram and Broken & Beautiful. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.