Traits of a jealous mother in law can drive you crazy. The worst part is that you might not even know whether she is actually jealous of you or are you just assuming. Thoughts like this can make you anxious and stressed. After all, negativity is never good.
As daughter in laws, we tend to notice a lot of changes in people around us. But if we don’t understand the changes – in behavior or otherwise, it tends to drive us insane. Therefore, it is important to understand the meaning of all new changes and traits exhibited by mum in laws.
In the current blog of mine, I will mention and elaborate deeply on the top ten traits that are exhibited by jealous mother in laws. I hope my observations help you in understanding the behavior displayed behind these characteristics by your mother in law.
Top 10 Traits of a Jealous Mother in Law
Jealousy is a self-consuming thing. Hence, people who are envious can’t hide their jealousy for very long. It just erupts out in mean bubbling ways. I call this – hateful bubbling. If you are one of those daughters in laws who struggles with the question of, ” is your mother in law jealous of you ” then certain stand out behavioral traits will surely help you understand more.
Previously, I had shared 9 types of mothers in law you might come across, let me now share the top 10 traits of a jealous mother in law. If your mom in law happens to exhibit most of then, then it’s a warning sign. Go talk to her, settle her down, and talk out the solution. Communication is known to fix jealousy issues in women. It’s a wonderful mechanism actually.
|1.) Know it all behavior|
|2.) Overly critical of everything|
|3.) Indulges in sarcasm bitterly|
|4.) Brings past relationships often|
|5.) No respect for boundaries|
|6.) Insulting behavior displayed more|
|7.) Forceful ignorance of you|
|8.) Tries to compete regularly|
|9.) Ungrateful attitude towards everything|
|10.) Doubtful of your qualities|
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1.) Know it all behavior
One of the first traits of a jealous mother in law is a blatant display of a ‘know it all’ kind of behavior. The fact that your mother in law tries to show she knows everything is actually proof of the opposite. She could be that narcissistic person in your life who tries too hard to demean you just in order to prove you wrong and have an upper hand on you.
2.) Overly critical of everything
Being extremely critical of everything you do and everything you choose is proof that your mother in law is jealous of you. Instead of appreciating you when you deserve it if your mother in law criticizes you, she has envy within her for you, which leaves us wondering as to what we can do to change this.
3.) Indulges in sarcasm bitterly
Sarcasm is not a bad thing. But if your mother in law constantly indulges in it, she is super jealous of you. Passing on mean sarcastic remarks and making you feel socially awkward, more often than being polite is one of the obvious traits of a jealous mother in law.
4.) Brings past relationships often
Bringing your husband’s past relationships and appreciating the previous woman in his life is the worst thing that your mother in law can do to pull you down. This reflects her own black jealousy for you and the extent she can go to hurt your sentiments.
5.) No respect for boundaries
If your mother in law is disrespectful towards you and is absolute inconsiderate about your boundaries or alone time, she is jealous of you. In fact, she wants to poke her nose in everything as a sign of dominance. This is a sign that is unhappy with a void in her life and when she sees you at content with your life she hates it.
6.) Insulting behavior displayed more
One of the most terrifying traits of a jealous mother in law. If she is insulting you publicly in front of people who respect you like your husband, children, friends, and parents make your mum in law happy, she is burning envy against you. This is one of the meanest traits she can possibly exhibit to put you down.
7.) Forceful ignorance of you
No matter how hard you try or how much you put an effort to love your mother in law, if she outrightly ignores your presence, she is streaming with jealousy for you. Her ignorance is actually her counter mechanism for hiding how much she sees you.
8.) Tries to compete regularly
Constant competition with you is one of the surest traits of a jealous mother in law. She will pull you down in everything and try to show off that only she is better and not you. She will even put you in awkward situations in social gatherings causing you anxiety.
9.) Ungrateful attitude towards everything
Being ungrateful towards you no matter what you do is one of the meanest traits of a jealous mother in law. Ingratitude is one of the biggest signs of an envious person. It makes even the greatest people fall and instills a long-lasting hatred in relations.
10.) Doubtful of your qualities
One of the last traits of a jealous mother in law is her doubtfulness about all your qualities. She will be a prick and see only the negative side and point that out. Your positivity will have no impact on her and she will continue to overpower you and you will be too stressed to deal with her.
What Causes Jealousy in Mother in Laws?
The number one reason for feeling envy is insecurity. This holds true not just for mom in laws but also for people in general. Insecurity has driven more families crazy than even financial instability. Insecurity, jealousy, and comparison are no less than inner demons that kill the person with his own hands. But it is usually too late to realize for them and understand what they are doing and what it would lead to.
It is anyway not easy dealing with in laws living with you. So to add to the ruckus, the insecurity of a jealous mother in law is a nightmare.
A mother in law that feels that her son has landed up a more beautiful, talented, and intelligent daughter in law than her will end up being insecure. Now, this is sad because in laws want these qualities in a son’s wife. So why the insecurity? It is such a paradoxical situation almost all daughters in law go through in their life and when they react they get labeled as the bad daughter in law.
Fixing Traits of a Jealous Mother in Law
The onus of fixing the traits exhibiting jealousy lies with your mother in law itself. However, you can help her fix it by honestly talking about it. Trust me, decent communication solves way more problems than indecent silence.
If you feel that her traits will vanish on her own, you are heading towards disappointment. Hence, fix the traits now to save yourself lots of hassle later. The sooner you point out wrongful behavior, the better it will prove for you. At least you will be at peace that you tried.
Hold your mother in laws’ hand and tell her that getting her son married means bringing a more positive person in his life. It does not mean letting go of people who exist already. This single thought will help her forge the bond between her and you. Try it! You have nothing to lose.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.