How Toxic Mothers in law Destroy Families?A toxic relationship, be it with anyone is characterized by insecurity, dominance, and control. It eaves you feeling drained and unhappy. It damages one’s emotional attributes and leads to a lot of internal stress. How toxic mothers in law destroy families and don’t even realize what they are doing? In the process of overpowering and the fear of losing her authority, she forgets that she is destroying her own house. She is playing nasty games which will result in an unpleasant atmosphere. There lies a few truths one never speaks about, a few challenges we are never taught about. We as daughters in law are trained to be adjusting, compromising, and sacrificing but are we ever made ready to deal with some harsh realities of life, and what happened when we just accidentally step on them, ouch, we didn’t saw it coming? Right?
Here are 5 toxic truths that destroy family but no one caresIf you wonder how toxic mothers in law destroy families, few truths will help you get the answers. Truth #1 – Mothers in-laws feel jealous and insecure
A mother and a wife reserve a very special but different spot in a man’s life. As long as a mother understands this and believes his son, she will not be a problem but the reality hits harder.How toxic mothers in law destroy families? A toxic mother in law who is so self-centered could never see her son giving a special place in his heart and life to someone who just entered his life a few days back. She can never let the idea of control, go. She can never release herself from her possessive nature and in turn, this behavior starts hampering her relationship with her daughter in law. Truth #2 – Mothers in law could be narcissistic A narcissist is possessed with inflated self-importance and patronization. A person with such a trait is a great manipulator and they love their image. They will stay good in front of others, pretend to be very compassionate but they are not how they appear to be. How do we deal with such type of a mother in law? Did anyone ever teach us, how to handle situations, rather than being a victim of the situation and surrendering to it? Women are easily labeled as weak but how to deal with something so damaged that it breaks everything around it? Truth #3 – Mothers in law could cause you mental health issues Hate is a very deep emotion and invoking anger. Mothers in-laws often sent her daughters in law and leaves no chance to express their anger and disgust. It is like a woman against another woman with no rational reason behind it. If any mother in law is reading this, I would like to ask her, why have you held up so much of hatred inside you, over the years where it could have been easily replaced by core wisdom. The worst part is they make you realize that they hate you in their unique ways. Truth #4 – Mothers in law can be stressful Tensions can sometimes build to a point where they tear families apart. Leading to stressful conditions in which people hardly think with a sane mind and the consequences thereafter. When two individuals who hail from a different culture, tradition, parenting styles, beliefs, and values are suddenly expected to mold them with the new environment. We forget the fact that we can learn new things, adapt to new environments within a proper time frame, but how can we UNLEARN something? Here it starts affecting the emotional well-being of the individual. Truth #5- Mothers in law can help you bloom Yes, they can. While all of the above points talks about how a toxic mother in law can destroy families with their adamant nature, it is also a fact that just when they take command of the family in a positive way, things change for good. Instead of being a foe, if they choose to be friends with you, you will bloom and give your hundred percent in everything you do. This is not anything we don’t know yet we don’t want to practice this evolved approach in our households is disheartening to see.
5 Ways to deal with a toxic mother in lawHow toxic mothers in law destroy families and how they ruin your mental peace? Instead of trying to change your mother in law, we can shift our focus on altering our approach. Focus on our own reactions which could save us some sanity.
|1. Don’t blame yourself|
|2. Learn to let go|
|3. Learn to define boundaries|
|4. Give up on changing her|
|5. Stop taking things personally|
……………………………………………………………………………Priyanka is a published author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you, Ardhaviram and Broken & Beautiful. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.