Taking charge of your life as a married woman is as important we used to take charge of our life when we were our childhood superheroes.
Why do women stop taking care of themselves, why do they stop nurturing themselves? Why do they accept that they are going to be a story of misery someday and their existence is non-essential to others?
As soon as a woman gets married, her mind goes through a 360-degree change. Let us fine-tune it together with these 35 simple reminders.
Taking charge of your life as a married woman and why is it important?
There would always be problems and life is not about all the good things. We all know it but what happens when we actually go through it. Remember how in our school days we used to stay care-free even when we were under constant performance pressure, competition, parent’s expectation to excel, and dreams for aspiring higher?
We use to juggle between our school, coaching classes, hanging around with friends, and yet sleep peacefully at night. Why? Because we were MINDFUL. We use to live in the moment and as soon as we started growing up we became totally unaware of our existence and started focusing on all the external elements, we think about all the stressors and lose our focus on little things.
Taking charge of your life as a married woman, and as a married woman myself, I would say that like you, even I have been through a lot of ups and downs in life, but I have never stopped feeding my inner-soul and that has kept me going. So, my dear ladies, whoever is reading this blog, just read it mindfully and take charge of your life in a way that nothing can break your spirit, and remember that we are together in this.
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35 Kickass Ways To Take Charge Of Your Married Life
I have always been hungry for learning new things and too passionate about trying what I learn. Maybe this urge for more took me to places and I always had something to look forward to. Taking charge of your life as a married woman is very important.
So sharing a few ways based on my learnings and a few tried and tested measures which could definitely bring out the best in you and give you all the strength to conquer your inner balance.
|1.) Prioritize your mental health|
|2.) Make exercise a part of your daily routine|
|3.) Try restorative yoga asanas|
|4.) Meditate for 5-8 minutes|
|5.) Invest in yourself|
|6.) Keep a happiness jar|
|7.) Indulge in gardening|
|8.) Get into DIYs|
|9.) Never sit idle, work|
|10.) Be financially independent|
|11.) Look for personal financial management|
|12.) Maintain a mood tracker|
|13.) Join constructive groups|
|14.) Improve your communication skills toastmasters and why do I need it an all|
|15.) Read a book or newspaper|
|16.) Have some current news awareness|
|17.) Make your child your friend|
|18.) In-laws are a part of life, not life|
|19.) Involve your spouse|
|20.) Draw healthy boundaries|
|21.) Stick to passionate people|
|22.) Unsubscribe to negativity|
|23.) Sing, dance, or paint|
|24.) Stay away from gossips|
|25.) Never demean another woman|
|26.) Be the change you want to see|
|27.) Do not compare with others|
|28.) If you have a dream, don’t sit on it|
|29.) Eat good|
|30.) Sleep well|
|31.) Never stop learning new things|
|32.) Never be jealous of other’s success|
|33.) Take advantage of equal opportunity|
|34.) Stop being sorry for yourself|
|35.) It is ok to be imperfect|
1.) Prioritize your mental health
How it will be like taking charge of your life as a married woman without taking charge of their mental wellness? Mental health although it is the most ignored corner of our body it is as important as your physical health. How will you feed others when you will have nothing to offer? So feed yourself first, nurture your mental health so that you can take care of your family.
2.) Make exercise a part of your daily routine
I know this might sound cliche, as I repeatedly ask you guys to follow exercise, meditation in almost every blog, but that’s my mission statement and I will keep reminding you till the day my comment box is full of messages saying yes we exercise daily and it helps.
3.) Try restorative yoga asanas
Restorative yoga is beneficial to balance your mental and physical state. The deep and slow stretches help you connect with your body and prevent stress and anxiety, it can be done at home and deeply relaxes the body.
4.) Meditate for 5-8 minutes
Yet another redundant way, you must have heard and read at many places, but unless you try it will never understand why everyone who has tried it, prompts others to try it out once. You know what is the best thing about meditation, you get to focus on your breaths, which are constantly working for you, yet you never reciprocate a simple thanks to it, meditation could be your way of being grateful for being alive, as simple as that.
5.) Invest in yourself
A little time and money. Time, in order to keep yourself updated with the subject of your interest. Money, to learn something new. Nowadays there are plenty of courses available online, you can always brush up your skills and try new things.
6.) Keep a happiness jar
A happiness jar, is a simple jar in which you can put all the good things happening to you daily, weekly, or monthly, writing on a piece of paper. It is for the day when you feel that you have nothing to be grateful for, you can simply empty the jar and read out the chits, you will find several reasons to be grateful for.
7.) Indulge in gardening
Taking charge of your life as a married woman is complex but you always have various methods, one of them is connecting to nature and it is one of the best escape from all the problems of life, isn’t it? We all have a little place in our house and please don’t tell me you don’t have time for planting or no one will allow you to grow plants and decorate your house, well there might be few exceptions, but please try this.
8.) Get into DIYs
This one is my favorite and it has kept my sanity intact. Right from stitching my dresses, to recycling old bottles, CDs, sarees, I have done it all. Drawing, painting, and mandala doodling are the best art therapies that work for me and I am sure it will work for you too. Many girls are masters in these skills, so never stop leveraging your skills for your own benefit.
9.) Never sit idle, work
By work, here I mean different things for different women, some are not even allowed to go out and work, but some who are should never sit idle because it will kill your passion for life. You need to have a purpose to look forward to daily. It will help you to keep focused and diverted from any life problems.
10.) Be financially independent
Savings and being self-reliant is very important. So what things are good today, you feel secure in every way. Who has seen tomorrow? You never know what life could throw in your path and instead of stumbling upon it, how about being prepared for it?
11.) Look for personal financial management
It includes your own personal savings account, your health insurance, a separate savings account, or your child’s education plan. Start early for a better tomorrow. Women usually are better financial managers but sometimes they lose all the connections when they engross themselves in daily household chores, they overlook such small things and realize later, do it now.
12.) Maintain a mood tracker
A mood tracker is nothing but a daily activity you do with yourself that hardly takes two minutes, all you have to do is note down how you are feeling today, right from happy, sad, moderate, angry, or anxious. Towards the end of the week or month, it helps you to track how you were feeling most of the time and lets you decide on which area you need to work on. Do this as if taking charge of your life as a married woman is equally important like it was when you were unmarried.
13.) Join constructive groups
Maybe a women’s club or rotary club or anything related to your area, which will help you meet and interact with like-minded people. Meeting with like-minded people helps you learn new things and you feel happy to communicate with them.
14.) Improve your communication
Communication is the key to success, even in relationships. Poor communication skills create misunderstandings. You must have heard about Toastmasters, it’s an amazing platform to interact and develop your communication and public speaking skills. Sometimes you might think that I am a housewife, why do I need to enhance my communication skill? So think of it as an advantage for yourself and a chance to be heard while you speak and put your concerns effectively.
15.) Read a book or newspaper
Food is for the body and reading is like an exercise for your mind, and it is also an escape from the real world. Taking charge of your life as a married woman is non-fictitious but a book that can take you to a fictitious world of its own as a whole and will divert your mind from the negativities of life. Reading a newspaper also helps to stay updated.
16.) Have some current news awareness
Today we have mobile phones and access to each and every update right in our hands. We can easily dedicate a few minutes to aware of our surroundings, subscribe to a news channel of our choice, and stay updated.
17.) Make your child your friend
Do not focus on raising a perfect child, focus on raising a happy one, and with this, you focus on your happiness too. Do not go harsh on yourself and seek perfection in your motherhood journey, your child and you as a mother could be co-learner.
18.) In-laws are a part of life, not life
Taking charge of your life as a married woman becomes really stressful in the presence of toxic in-laws in our life. We are hardly blessed with evolved in-laws, who accept us like their own. Few lucky ones are really blessed to have accomplished this major stressor in their life but the majority of the women population lack this basic love and support.
19.) Involve your spouse
Your marriage is majorly about you and your husband. Involve your spouse in everything you do, try to be friends before bringing life-partners, it will help to give a lot of space to each other and create a very understanding environment. For the toxic ones, leave them aside and keep growing individually.
20.) Draw healthy boundaries
In every relationship there comes a time of saturation, with growing age, growing family, and growing problems. We all encounter various difficult situations. Draw healthy boundaries in every relationship if you want to keep it with you in your life.
21.) Stick to passionate people
Passionate people are always talking about important and constructive things. Stay in the company of such people who spark joy and some possibilities in your life.
22.) Unsubscribe to negativity
Do it right away, it could be in the form of a person, a job, or anything you feel is the major source of negativity in your life, you need to unsubscribe to it, to save yourself some sanity.
23.) Sing, dance, or paint
I have hardly seen any women without a love of art. Art has various forms and I have seen women beautifully curating distinct art even after marriage. Do not stop doing what you love to do, taking charge of your life as a married woman is artistic in its own way.
24.) Stay away from gossips
Yes, please why do we want to talk about tother and demean others, why do we have to talk about others when we a lot to work on ourselves. Talking less saves you a lot of energy, try it.
25.) Never demean another woman
We have always heard how a woman is always demeaning another one, let us empower each other as we never know what a person is going through in his personal life.
26.) Be the change you want to see
If you want to see more strong and empowered women, start with yourself and start lifting all the women you know around you. I have hardly found a woman rooting for me, especially my few friends, and a few relatives who have always been very negative and unsupportive about what I do, but they are not my audience.
27.) Do not compare with others
Your story is different, you a different person with a different life, your chapter 30 cannot be someone else’s chapter 50, so never compare your life with others, we all make a little progress daily and in the process we the only thing we should acquire is wisdom.
28.) If you have a dream, don’t sit on it
As Swami Vivekananda quotes, “Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.”
29.) Eat good
I have seen my mother always in a rush to do things and complete daily chores, I always insist she slow down and have a cup of tea, eat some snacks. This is the story of almost every mother and we forget that we need to eat well to keep ourselves running and taking care of everyone else.
30.) Sleep well
Never compromise on your sleep, 7-8 hours of sleep is a must to undergo repair and maintenance of your own body. Please do not take your health and your body for granted, do not stretch just because it is not hurting now, later it will bounce back.
31.) Never stop learning new things
Never ever! I believe the day we stop learning the day we cease t exist. Learning is proof that we are IN this game called life and we are here to win.
32.) Never be jealous of other’s success, work on yours
It is a woman tendency I would say to compare and get jealous, I have experienced this brutally with my own cousins and friends, when I started receiving awards for my writing and getting recognition for my work, they could not take it and passed snide remarks. It was hurtful and I chose to stay away from them.
33.) Take advantage of equal opportunity
Yes, these 24 hours, are the equal opportunity which we all get daily, there is no differentiation here, rather it is the test of your conviction and courage to see how far you are willing to go to change your present situation.
34.) Stop being sorry for yourself
Would it be like to be a sorry story or a guiding light to someone else? We are surrounded by liberated and powerful women so we feel we are in a better place, we live in a myth but the world needs a lot more sensitivity for women to taking charge of your life as a married woman.
35.) It is ok to be imperfect
Lastly, your only competition is you and no one else. So stop being in the race of perfectionism so that you can flaunt your brighter side to others. Be yourself and focus on being a better version daily.
To conclude, I would say that marriage is not the end of life, neither it advocates a theory to stop growing and valuing yourself. You can see it as a challenge or a path of wisdom based on your personal experiences but you must not stop nurturing yourself, just like a plant needs water to flourish, you need your own love, attention, and care to bloom. Bloom from where you are planted and spread your fragrance in your surroundings, let nothing take away your inner-beauty from you, in the end, it is all that matters.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.