How To Deal With A Breakup Alone?Ok, so now he is gone. While I write this blog, I am not a married woman and a mother, I see myself as a teenager who once suffered heartache as an aftermath of a breakup. No, no I don’t miss him at all, but what I remember is the closure part, how many of us gets a proper closure from our past relationships? Hardly any. If you sit quietly without howling over the fact that you are alone, and think a little rationally you will understand it is not the sadness of losing the person but losing it the way it happened. We start fresh, we start anew, we connect our dreams and desire to THE ONE and suddenly the one is gone and all our dreams and desires shatter like those Jenga blocks as we move a single piece from its place. BOOM. How do we fix those missing pieces and how do we move on without them? That is what makes moving on a little difficult. How to deal with a breakup alone and how to not break ourselves in the process of moving on.
10 Mind-Jolting Ways To Move on From a BreakupRemember, you cannot actually change someone who doesn’t want to change, so the moral of the story here is we lose someone because maybe we are not meant for each other, maybe someone else is made for us or maybe life has got some other plans. These are the few most common and probable outcomes of this rumbling tragedy. So what the heck do we do now? How to deal with a breakup alone? Should we pour ourselves into sadness, darkness, and loneliness? Should we be listening to the saddest version of songs and cry a little more, because the lyrics hit so hard with our emotional temperament or should we over-eat or not eat at all? All these zeroes down on self-harming. Yes, that’s what we do once we lose someone we love, we dwell into self-harm, we treat ourselves miserably, we literally drown our own self. Will you ever, ever do this to anybody else around you? Tell me, if a friend of yours calls you and tells you that she had just broke-off with her boyfriend, will you suggest her to stay depressed or help her get over it eventually? Will you listen to her calmly and let her mellow down or hung up on her? You will empathize, right? That is what you need to do with yourself, pick up the broken pieces and take charge of your life, and here is how we can do it:
|1.) Acknowledge how you are feeling|
|2.) Give yourself time to heal|
|3.) Move to a different place for a while|
|4.) Take a break from your regular life|
|5.) Social Media Detox works|
|6.) Accept that you might not get the closure|
|7.) Take this time to re-invent yourself|
|8.) De-clutter and organize stuff at your home|
|9.) Just block your ex from everywhere|
|10.) Establish a new routine|
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.