Finding your purpose as a married womanWhy does it become so difficult to come out of our own cocoon? What are the factors responsible for harnessing our growth and development as an individual? What stops you or what holds you back to find your purpose in life? In my last article, I had spoken about the importance of taking charge of your life as a married woman at length, and today I am going to share as good as 10 stressors that stop you from finding your purpose as a married woman.
|1.) Social Norms Because all the norms are made up for women only. A woman is expected to behave in a certain manner after she gets married and that’s how finding your purpose as a married woman becomes a distant dream. She becomes a representative of a household suddenly and is expected to perform all her duties with utmost devotion and selfless love.|
|2.) Stereotypes Those same old wives tales, coming from ages to generations to generations. Gender stereotypes or any other discrimination shuns the growth of a woman in so many ways. The list could be endless and how it affects the mindset of women is frustrating.|
|3.) Patriarchy Although a lot has been said about equality nowadays, there remains a larger chunk where women are still discriminated on the basis of wages, promotions and some are not even allowed to go out and work just because they are WOMAN.|
|4.) Unfavorable Environment Too many family members, too many responsibilities, some elder person who is ill or too dependent on you. You want to achieve a lot but due to an unfavorable environment, you don’t even get time to focus on your life’s purpose.|
|5.) Access Limitations You do not have the ease of access. You don’t get information and you are not updated with the latest trends because you are not in that kind of surrounding. People you live with have no purpose in life and neither they encourage you to find one, it again pulls you down.|
|6.) Family Constraints One of the major contributors stoping to finding your purpose as a married woman. You are the center of everyone’s universe. You keep the house running and maintain the flow of everything in your house hence no one ever thinks about your dreams and desires.|
|7.) Family Responsibility When you are loaded with a lot of responsibilities, even when you are a working woman on a career path sometimes you don’t enjoy what you are doing, maybe because you are the sole breadwinner of the house, maybe you are a single mom. The situation varies from woman to woman and family plays a very vital role in helping a woman change it, but the sad truth is it hardly happens.|
|8.) Lack of Support You are available for everyone but when you want to figure out something you lack that strong support system which says go ahead we are there to support you. A woman doesn’t need everything served in the platter but all she needs is trust and few words of encouragement. It gives her a major boost to move ahead and go behind things she aspires for.|
|9.) ILL Health For someone who has been facing a lot of health issues, hormonal imbalance, post-partum depression, parental challenges, it becomes all the more stressful to find their own IKIGAI in the process. They lose their inner space and you will hardly find anyone who will uplift you or remind you to gear up.|
|10.) Emotional imbalance How losing your emotional balance can divert you from finding your purpose as a married woman? Emotional balance is the ability of the mind and body to maintain equilibrium and flexibility in the face of challenge and change. Just after we get bombarded with responsibilities and duties we lose our equilibrium and that’s when we stop growing.|
A quick exercise to help you find your real purpose in life
- Grab a pen and a paper
- Sit in a quiet place
- Write down a job you are good at
- Write down a skill you love to follow
Now think from this perspective; what you are are good at could be something you are doing out of your qualification and understanding which might even pay you well. What you love to follow could be something that you are passionate about but are uncertain if you could follow it as a career, right?
Now if you really want to follow your passion, write down where you lack to pursue it? Do you need to upgrade your knowledge to start or have lost complete touch with your interest?
To add further, ask one more question to self, can you earn something out of your passion or can you be content with the satisfaction you will derive when you will follow something you love to do even when you won’t get paid for it? Classify your answers.
By this, you will be able to get to a point where you will become more clear about finding your purpose as a married woman who still dreams to shine and rule her world.