Can a good relationship fix anxiety and help you stay grounded? Can a good partner help you overcome your negative thought patterns and replace them with positive ones?
It’s a complete gamble, finding the right person for yourself. I believe it is only through various circumstances and situations you discover something new about a person and it takes a whole life to understand one. Isn’t it?
If you land up with a sensitive and caring one, surely your life will be a little easy, lets us see how 🙂
Can a Good Relationship Fix Anxiety?
Yes, it can to a certain extent and it also depends upon the existence of your anxiety, like it was before getting into a relationship or after, is it relationship anxiety or is it because of some childhood experience, family experience, or career aspect. A bad relationship can surely trigger the anxiety but a good one can help minimize it.
Sometimes there could be a lot of story and structure behind someone’s anxiety and anxiousness but sometimes there could be no reason at all and the person is imbibed with the traits of excessive fear, worrying, and panic. It becomes challenging for the other partner to understand such things and their support means a lot to he sufferer.
How Can a Good Relationship Fix Anxiety?
Whether you are married or dating someone with anxiety, one can say it is a true test of love to love and support someone with their mental illness. Acceptance and inclusion come from within and when you start normalizing such behavioral traits of a person based on their mental disability which is hard to be seen, as they are invisible, you enable others to break the stigma and shame attached to it.
How can a good relationship fix anxiety? If I have anxiety issues and I worry a lot, I get panicky unnecessarily and doubt/fear everything. It will be very challenging for my partner to hold up with me because I will even doubt him and I will expect a lot from him.
And this gap of expectations and not getting them fulfilled creates havoc between couples. It starts impacting their relationship, but there are few too mindful creatures who are so calm and composed of their belief system and thought process that they choose to see their partner in whichever form they are, accept them the way they are, and then life takes a U-turn.
Few signs of General Anxiety
1.) Excessive Worrying, which might not sound reasonable to you but your partner might be obsessed over the same thought and will persistently worry about it.
2.) Panic Attacks; Extreme sense of fear, sweaty palms, and rapid heart rate.
3.) Difficulty in concentrating and unable to calm down due to their intrusive thoughts.
4.) It increases muscle tension.
5.) It causes insomnia.
How can you help your partner to ease?
How can a good relationship fix anxiety? We usually focus on fixing the person and want immediate results. We often think that the solution is very simple and easy to adapt, whereas a person who has been like this forever doesn’t know what another kind of behavior or living with other less intrusive thoughts means.
But they definitely want to overcome what is causing distress in them, no one wants to live in constant fear and insecurity about his own life and relationships. so how do we help our partner, our loved ones to make the road a little easy? Let us see:
|1.) By understanding the triggers|
|2.) By giving them personal space|
|3.) By diverting them towards Art|
|4.) By indulging in mindfulness|
|5.) By adopting a few daily exercises|
|6.) By not paying heed to society|
|7.) By not giving up on them|
|8.) By taking care of your mental health too|
|9.) By seeking professional help|
1.) By understanding the triggers
How can a good relationship fix anxiety? By understanding or identifying your partner’s triggers helps you to minimize the panic attack and a series of intrusive thoughts it might lead to. Sometimes it could be a topic of discussion, a thing, or even a person which triggers a sense of fear, insecurity in your partner. Keeping them
2.) By giving them personal space
A person with anxiety goes through deep mood shifts. It becomes difficult for one to adjust to their mood swings and also causes frustration. But when you feel overwhelmed and fail to figure out their thoughts, it is better to give them some personal and healthy space, a space where they can be with themselves, take time to mellow down and talk when they feel alright.
3.) By diverting them towards Art
Art is no less than therapy. For me, art is relaxing and therapeutic. Art could be any form, some can enjoy music, dance, playing a musical instrument, painting, creating doodle art, or even mandala. You will find most of the people suffering from any sort of mental distress inclined towards some form of art to reduce their stress, just try to reconnect them to their passion, it might help them.
4.) By indulging in mindfulness
Mindfulness is a simple technique to connect with self in the same state of existence. See things like it, you can practice it and enable our partner to do the same by showing how it has helped you balance your sanity. It might help to feel lighter and calmer for both of you.
5.) By adopting a few daily exercises
Exercise and some form of meditation can help you kick start your day. It helps you release harmful chemicals from the body, can alleviate depression, and provides metabolism. Of course, the weight you want to reduce is of mind and not the body, but doing a 30-minute exercise daily will help you balance both.
6.) By not paying heed to society
Society here means your friends and family members who might gaslight you and try to influence you over her anxiety issues. They might not be able to adjust to your partner’s behavior and sudden mood swings and will expect you to stay away from her. But if you are firm and clear about your way of handling things then you do not have to worry about what people have to say.
7.) By not giving up on them
How can a good relationship fix anxiety? Dealing with a person with some form of mental illness, be it a little extensive, requires a lot of patience and perseverance. It helps you accumulate a lot of wisdom over a period of time which can surely help you grow as a person. When you choose not to give up, you help someone bloom.
8.) By taking care of your mental health too
In this process of helping and taking care of your partner, do not forget that you need to take care of your mental health too. You need to prioritize your sanity to help your partner achieve theirs. This is only possible by drawing healthy lines and keeping clear communications.
9.) By seeking professional help
Can a good relationship fix anxiety? Yes, When going gets tough and none of your mechanisms seems to be working, please seek professional help, meet a counselor or psychologist. Explain to them how you are feeling and no there is no shame attached in seeing a psychiatrist. Break this stigma. Your mental health is as important as physical health, take charge of it.
In the end, I would say I have seen relationships falling apart due to sheer negligence and choosing to stay ignorant towards how your partner feels and suffocates due to his/her intrusive thoughts. On the contrary, I have also seen relationships bloom just because of a little attention, care, and timely intervention. Love is rare and precious, please hold your loved ones and do not give up on them. Stay safe. Lots of love.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.