“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”― Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
Life lessons are part of our daily growth. The more we learn and the more we grow, I say this all the time to everyone I meet, to everyone I try to encourage to follow their passion. I test my abilities for myself. I trust in my instincts and I follow my heart. I have gathered several life lessons to ponder from time to time.
I listen to everyone, thanks to all the people around us who freely give their unsolicited advice, trying to mock us down with their flare and sometimes they manage to freak us out, but I take NONE. I have my own journey to travel and unravel.
Our biggest teacher is LIFE itself. It teaches us different values at different phases of life. Our life tries to tests our capacities and capabilities time to time. Sometimes we give up, sometimes we manage to swim across our deepest fear, but we learn something in the process.
So, what has been the biggest learning in your life? What has been the biggest breakthrough for you? It is not only about your life, but it is also about you, YOU as a person, an individual.
Self-discovery exercise for Day 9- Life Lessons
Here are my 5 biggest life lessons from my 35 years of life:
#Nothing lasts forever: I think permanence is a myth. Things change, people change, situation change and our willingness to acceptance towards any of these elements need to be changed from time to time, only for us to live at peace.
#Health is Wealth: Most of things in our life which are available for free and in abundance are usually the ones we pay less heed to. Water, Air, Sunlight, Nature are few things which are prime basis of a living and a form of nurturing and we become so possessed with our mechanical life that we undervalue our core existence and its relative connection with the very nature.
I understood the true importance of a healthy body only after I was hard hit by a chronic illness which broke me inside out and financially too. The burden was such that it caused me a five inch deep depression inside my soul. Imagine, I was fighting with two demons inside me, tumors and depression.
I came out well, I survived but the duration of treatment taught me a great lesson, “TAKE CARE of your precious body“. It’s not that I do not exercise or try to adhere to a healthy lifestyle but sometimes we take our health for granted and it results in huge damage.
I started valuing nature, the greenery, each blooming flower all the more once I was well, I saw the sun, I saw the birds like I was seeing them for the first time, perhaps with a different mind frame now. This came out as one of the biggest life lessons for me.
#Who holds your back: NO ONE!! I can say it loud and clear. There will be times when you feel all elated and overwhelmed for having such wonderful people in your life and sometimes in a different situation of your life you might find them the most awful bunch of people you chose to stay with.
#Not everyone will understand your intentions, so stop explaining yourself: Now this is very important, and let me tell you I learned this one in a very harsh and hard manner. Ever since I started writing, it was clear that I have chosen a different and unconventional path, which not many understand, and for many, this part of me doesn’t even exist.
#You can’t keep everyone happy: Unless you are jar of nutella or a chocolate laden ice-cream, but wait I think not everyone likes them too. Jokes apart, the very basis of human nature in this persuasion of anything is to get appreciated or make others happy.
Having mentioned my life lessons, I would say our learnings could differ but you follow what works best for you, you have chosen something in your life which gives you a purpose to get up every morning, and just because few nut heads are not happy with what you are doing will you stop doing it or will you cut loose your ties with such toxic people in your life?
This could be a very vital decison to make as I have experience that the bar graph of my friends have only come down by my each passing year starting from 2016 when I was fighting my illness.
Tough times or tough people, I guess only a few things last forever. I took these few life lessons in my stride and I try to learn and I try to grow daily. I have stopped explaining myself to others for what I do and why do.
I keep low-key and mind my own business. Writing helps me to relive and that’s what I do and get connected with a different world outside my purview. I hope you get some time to dwell into your learning and reflect upon them.
See you tomorrow.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.