Common communication problems in a relationship we all go through in our daily life, and how it affects our relationship? Have you ever wondered?
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship and poor communication is the biggest barrier in any relationship. Somehow we all know this but don’t want to internalize it, isn’t it?
In this blog, let us discuss 5 common communication problems in a relationship and what we can do about them.
5 Common Communication Problems In A Relationship
Relationships flourish and bloom when the efforts are put from both sides. Communication is the bridge between the two of you to fill all the gaps and nullify the void created between you two due to the external factors surrounding you.
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We cannot NOT communicate, we always communicate, maybe not through our words and language but through our body language, our expression, even an expressionless face communicates a message, we have to understand it. I learned this as one of the effective presuppositions while I was undergoing my NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) training.
Initially, I could not process it but eventually, when I started processing this in my daily life, it helped to form effective communication with the people around me.
While there are several ways people develop poor communication in relationships but here are 5 common communication problems in a relationship we must take care of and work on.
1.) You don’t listen actively
There is a difference between hearing and actually listening to what others are speaking about and that little difference makes the huge shifts. If you are not listening then your partner knows and feels withdrawn which elevates his/her anxiousness.
Have you ever noticed how your partner complains about you not listening to him/ her? You get pissed off but still, you ignore the fact that the communication is not happening here.
2.) You wait for your turn to speak
You just wait for your partner to finish so that you can either give it back or out your point of view, but do know when you are not actively listening and simply waiting for your turn to speak, you have already mentally dismissed what all your partner has been talking about.
You have judged and criticized the whole conversation internally and then just waiting to put forward your thought on the same will only result in more complications.
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.” –Peter Drucker
3.) You don’t pay attention
Do you know what is the most common communication problem in a relationship? That missing attention link, that interlinks two people in any relationship. Are you paying attention to your partner’s body language, behavior, choices of words, silence, or frustration?
A lot remains unsaid, and most of the time your partner will expect you to understand that there is a problem and they want to talk but your dismissive nature doesn’t help them.
4.) You don’t express how you feel
Now, another crucial barrier here is that many people who are reserved, introverted or less-expressive, don’t talk about their feelings, don’t share their love and care resulting in huge havoc for the other partner.
As the other one is always expected to understand that they are loved and cared for, but different situations demand different approaches and if a partner is not able to express how they feel for the other, the gap widens.
“We never listen when we are eager to speak.”–Francois de la Rochefoucauld
5.) You assume things
Just because you know that they know you, you assume a lot of things. Just as I mentioned in the above point about the importance of expressing how you feel, it is important to openly talk about other aspects as well.
You cannot just assume that your partner must have understood what you want to convey, you just cannot blame them for not understanding what you never said.
In the end, I would say that to have a healthy and meaningful relationship, it is very important that we keep our communication channels open. It is vital that we talk openly about how we’re feeling and what needs to be done about it.
With these common communication problems in a relationship comes crucial turns in your life, so be mindful about your situation and always talk it out, it will only help.
Lots of love and gratitude
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.