Why do we need to get rid of our toxic ties? Because it might be stopping us from becoming our best version. What are toxic ties? Why do they hold us back?
Toxic ties could be in the form of a behavior pattern, a limiting belief, a person, or anything that doesn’t spark any joy in our life. We don’t like it but still stay with it, entertain it. But somewhere down the lane, we know how it bothers us and kills the everyday joy of our living, isn’t it?
Self-discovery exercise for Day 13- Toxic Ties
Do you feel you have a toxic behavior pattern, which you access often, knowingly or unknowingly? A peculiar act you do every time and get the same pathetic result, but you still continue doing it and then curse yourself?
Or do you stick to a person, who doesn’t appreciate you or brings you down, but just to please them and not upset them, you stay?
What do you think you will lose if you cut loose these toxic ties? You will only help yourself to live a little more productive and joyful life. I had a lot of limiting beliefs, fears, and a few people, who kept demeaning me and putting me in a place where I no longer felt like myself.
It is like, we give the key to our happiness and joys to them, they use it s per their convenience and then we complain. We complain about their behavior, their attitude, we want them to change, whereas it’s us who needs to change. We need to have a self-check-in every now and then and filter out all the unwanted things in our life.
We expend a lot of time and energy thinking about how others should behave, how we’d like them to behave and attempting to change their behaviour. But changing others in beyond our control, we can only work on ourselves and improve our present situation by identifying what works and what doesn’t work for us.
Hard to begin? Yes, hard to follow, No, you just have to make a conscious effort.
See you tomorrow.
Priyanka Nair is the author of 26 Days 26 Ways for a Happier you and Ardhaviram. An NLP practitioner and Founder of Sanity Daily, helping you prioritize your mental health. Let’s build a happy community.