Family & Relationships
It is really difficult when you have to live with people who do not value your presence or continuously ignore you. On top of that you’re anyway struggling with all the wedding adjustment and meeting new challenges each day. Being ignored is worse than being yelled at by somebody.
The best or the worst thing about giving a respect or getting respected is that you cannot just ask for it. Love and the feelings of respect are mutually exclusive; they co-exist and for any relationship to flourish, to bloom. Love and respect play a major role, like water is to plant, respect is that foundation to any relationship.
Is your father in law controlling? Does he try to impose his decisions in your personal matters or interferes a lot in each and every situation? A father in law is the head of the house, he is not only the karta-dharta of the family but he is the most respectable person in many families. You can call it a result of male patriarchy, societal dominance or simply out of respect or just because of fear. There could be so many reasons behind his controlling behavior.
"Is your mother in law jealous of you?" Has this thought ever crossed your mind ? Has this feeling ever made you uncomfortable ? Has this question made you uneasy and doubtful of your relationship with your mother in law ? If yes, it's time you start to look for the signs.
Types of Indian mother in laws that exist are of various kinds. Each type is different from the other. As women, you should know the kind of mother in law you have landed with or will land up in the future. Be aware enough to choose the kind who respects you as a person.
"Why living with in laws is a bad idea?" Has this question ever crossed your mind ? Have you thought about the inequality that exists in society ? A man is never expected to stay with his in laws but a woman is pressurized into the same. Does it bother you to constantly have in laws around especially if they don't treat you well ?
